Cleelia Uudam Costa
Midlife Identity Coach
This chapter of your life is ending.
You get to decide what comes next.
Coaching for accomplished women in their 40s and 50s who have outgrown the life they built and want a clear, honest direction they trust, without blowing up everything they are still responsible for.
Does any of this sound familiar?
You built a career you were proud of, and lately you sit in meetings wondering how much longer you can keep doing this.
You have spent years being who everyone needed you to be, and somewhere along the way you stopped asking what you want.
You moved countries for a partner or a job, and somewhere along the way your own work and ambitions were put on hold.
Or nothing is wrong on paper, and still you feel restless every Sunday evening.
Sometimes the change is chosen. Often it is not: a divorce, a loss, a job that ends, a move you never planned. Either way, the life you knew has shifted and you are still finding your footing.
Whatever brought you here, you don't need to have it all figured out. You need to understand why you feel the way you do, decide what you want now, and take a first step that fits the life you are living.
This work draws on narrative identity psychology, the research on how we make meaning of our lives through the stories we tell about ourselves. It is the framework I trust most for understanding what shifts during a major life transition, and why.
Read. We look at the story you have been living: the roles, the turning points and the beliefs about yourself that became background noise a long time ago. You will finally understand why you feel stuck.
Rewrite. We separate what is truly yours from what you inherited or agreed to without noticing. From there, we shape a clear direction for your next chapter, whether that means a new career, a reshaped role or a different way of living the life you have.
Rewire. New ways of seeing yourself need practice before they feel natural. We turn your direction into small, concrete choices you make between sessions, so the change lasts after our work ends.
“I entered my first coaching call with Cleelia saying, “Honestly, I am so happy with my life that I’m not quite sure what you can help me with but I’m happy to meet you!” And then Cleelia and I had a coaching session. And another session. And another session and… Fast forward to today and I have changed my career, addressed insecurities within myself, become a better partner, and done powerful work to make sure I'm making decisions for the right reasons for me. Cleelia's spot-on questions and powerful discussions led me to become a better advocate for myself in all aspects of my life and I would wish this kind of transformation for everyone.”
Emily Claire, (US), copy-writer
www.emilyclaireand.co
I'm Cleelia, an ICF-certified coach with a PhD in Management, currently studying psychology because I wanted to understand the science behind the work I do.
I have run a hospitality business for 17 years, raised four children and moved countries to build a life in Portugal. I know what it feels like when the life you built starts asking for a new chapter.
Based in Lisbon, working with women everywhere online.
I have created The Next Chapter, a 3-month 1:1 coaching program for women ready to decide what comes next. Read more about the program here.
