Cleelia Uudam Costa
Coach & Mentor
Every transition asks the same question.
Chosen or not.
Who am I now?
I help women in the middle of major life transitions reconnect with who they actually are underneath all the roles and expectations, and begin to consciously write what comes next.
Does any of this sound familiar?
Transitions unsettle us. They ask questions we have been avoiding. They strip away the familiar and leave us standing in the in-between space wondering who we are now.
Maybe you saw this coming. Maybe you did not. Maybe life shifted in a way you never planned for and you are still trying to find your footing. Maybe you chose this change and still feel lost inside it.
Whatever brought you here, you are in the right place.
That in-between space is exactly where the real work begins. And that is exactly what I am here for.
Transitions ask hard questions.
Who am I now that this has changed? What do I actually want? What comes next?
If any of this sounds like where you are right now, you are in the right place.
My work sits at the intersection of coaching, narrative identity psychology and lived experience. I call the process Read. Rewrite. Rewire. Because that is exactly what it is.
First, we Read. We look closely at the story you have been living, the chapters that shaped you, the patterns that formed when you were a different version of yourself, and we make honest sense of all of it together.
Then, we Rewrite. We separate the stories that are truly yours from the ones you inherited or absorbed along the way. We reconnect you with who you actually are underneath all the roles and expectations, and we begin to consciously author what comes next.
Finally, you Rewire. Because understanding is only the beginning. Real change requires new choices, repeated long enough to lay down new pathways. That is where neuroscience meets narrative, and where things begin to genuinely shift.
This is not generic coaching. It is story-based identity work rooted in the research of psychologist Dan P. McAdams, delivered through one to one coaching conversations that go to the depth your situation actually deserves.
“I entered my first coaching call with Cleelia saying, “Honestly, I am so happy with my life that I’m not quite sure what you can help me with but I’m happy to meet you!” And then Cleelia and I had a coaching session. And another session. And another session and… Fast forward to today and I have changed my career, addressed insecurities within myself, become a better partner, and done powerful work to make sure I'm making decisions for the right reasons for me. Cleelia's spot-on questions and powerful discussions led me to become a better advocate for myself in all aspects of my life and I would wish this kind of transformation for everyone.”
Emily Claire, (US), copy-writer
www.emilyclaireand.co
Cleelia Costa, PhD is a certified ICF coach, psychology student and someone who believes so deeply in this work that she went back to study the psychology behind it.
She is a hospitality entrepreneur of 16 years, a mother of four, and a midlife woman who has navigated her own identity reinvention. She does not work from above. She works from alongside.
Based in Lisbon, working with people everywhere.
